Have you ever gone on a date and ask, “How do I get a second date?” Getting a second date is one of the pressing thoughts many men and women just like you have on the first date.
Regardless of how well you like the person you have invited on a date, the chances of getting a second date depend on several things that must be done correctly.
A date is just an opportunity to get to know someone you are interested in.
And it is a chance for the love interest to decide whether he or she would accept an invitation for a second date.
Hence, the balance of power lies with the person the date was extended to and not the person that extended the invitation.
A second date can be obtained at the end of the first date, but a number of things must be done right.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that, when you invite someone on a date, the person you have invited will make a decision whether to agree or refuse an invitation to a second date based on what he or she learns about you during the first date.
The reason is that, during a first outing, your date will form an opinion about you and make a decision about how things will go based on how well you articulate your ideas on the date, way before the date ends.
So what should you talk about on the first date?
The second date tip at the top of my list is to be a good listener.
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If you can master the art of listening, you will be able to ascertain how far you can take the date.
Here is an example.
During her first date with a man she had recently met, a woman I know talked about things she liked.
One of these was that she followed a motivational speaker known as Abraham Hicks.
As she began to tell the man all that she had learned from Abraham—as she likes to call him—the man listened intently and showed interest in hearing what she had to say.
During the second hour, the woman told the man, “Most of my girlfriends have given up on men. They say there are no good men out there. I am so happy to find someone who listens to me and shows interest in what I have to say.”
Her remark makes it clear that she feels she has found a great guy.
Based on what she said, would you agree that the man is guaranteed a second date with her if he asks?
And he was sharp enough to ask her for the second date at that moment, while the window of opportunity was still open, because he was thinking on his feet.
Quality women expect this in men.
A second date is certain if you play your cards right.
The man did everything correctly.
Rather than think about how he would get her into bed, he listened to her.
People love talking about themselves.
By listening, he showed her that he is interested in her as a person—she was not just someone to get into bed after the first date.
Show your date that you are interested in what he or she has to say.
Often, if a man can just listen to the woman on their first date, he can score points that will lead to the second date.
It really is that simple.
You can learn a lot on a date just by listening.
In casual conversation, people give out a lot of information about themselves, their interests, and their likes and dislikes.
So pay attention to what your date says.
For example, if a date tells you about something she used to love doing, use that as a reason to extend an invitation for a second date.
So, you may say something like, “Too bad you haven’t gone dancing for a while. I would like to invite you to come dancing with me at a nice club I know.”
By saying “a nice club you know,” you are taking charge.
Women expect that.
Never tell a woman that you want to take her to a club that she goes to.
You need to be in charge; otherwise, she might sense that you are willing to do anything to please her.
Though this may seem like a good thing, in reality it is a sign of weakness.
Most women do not appreciate this.
It really is that simple.
Keep the conversation interesting, listen, find your window of opportunity, and act!